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Month: April 2018

Words Will Hurt Me

[foul language warning] Get your head out of your ass! What the fuck is the matter with you? How could you say that? You should know what I mean. Can’t you keep your mouth shut? Adults on the autism spectrum have heard many hurtful words over the decades. While each of us is unique, many of us were picked last for sports because we were clumsy. Many of us never understood our peers’ social dynamics. Many of us talked when everyone else was silent, or talked louder when everyone else spoke. How many of us got an assignment from our boss at work that he or she was unable to explain? We should just know what he meant. How many of us got slapped by a girl for reading her social cues wrong? My best friend slapped me once, as I thought I was being lighthearted. We mask. We hide. We find ways to cope, while not quite fitting in. We failed to succeed at work because we couldn’t stand to deal with people. We used money, alcohol, drugs, to hide our depression and anxiety. It is long past time that families, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, support us, love us for who we are, and understand our differences and our needs.

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Autistic Police

‘The uniform and the rules attract autistic people to join the police‘ BBC April 1, 2018 Law enforcement attracts people who are on the spectrum,” he says. “They like the uniform – you get to wear the same thing every day. And you get to enforce the rules. Hopefully this is not an April Fool’s joke. A friend recently asked me if I had ever considered joining the military? This article is along the same lines. My brain does not suffer fools gladly, nor does it accept easily the performance of tasks for no reason. The regimented life of the military, and to a lesser extent, the police, may appeal to some on the autism spectrum. For me, it would be a constant fight to justify in my own mind the rules and the exceptions that both services would impose. I was an EMT for about 14 years. While it was difficult, the practice in New York State was ideal for me. The evaluation of a patient was scripted, and the treatments that I could provide were detailed. I rarely received a post-call compliment for my care, compassion, and concern but I got the job done. Now, I will say this. When given clear instruction, I am very good at following it. That is not necessarily a good thing as the defendants at Nuremberg discovered. I have always sought praise and validation from superiors. It’s part of a schema from my childhood. I follow orders if I can understand them.…

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